Perfectionism to me is striving to be perfect. It’s about keeping up with Jones’ and the Angelina Jolie-nses. It’s not healthy.
My best example of perfectionism: The house is cluttered – a huge mess. I’m overwhelmed at the idea of cleaning. I know if I want to do it perfectly, it will take forever. So instead of cleaning, I don’t. I get all depressed and anxious feeling. It’s icky.
I’m the same way with food choices, exercise and a number of different areas in my life. That’s why I am striving to be the Ex-Perfectionist. That’s why I am learning to love myself as I am (Copied from my About section).
So do you struggle with perfectionism? If you answer yes to one or more of the following questions, you probably are a perfectionist or have perfectionist tendencies…1.) If someone comes to visit you on short notice, do you freak out because your house has a pile of folded laundry on the couch, stack of paper on the table and other stuff that needs to be put away?
2.) Are you hard on yourself when you vow to not eat potato chips at a friends BBQ, but slip up and have a handful anyway?
3.) When you do slip up with food choices on occasion, do you panic and try to fit in an extra workout?
4.) Do you apologize to your friend who needs a ride when you have some excess junk mail in your car?
5.) Do you cry or panic or stress eat when you get on the scale and notice it hasn’t budged after a month of hard work?
6.) When your house is messy or there is work to be done, do you bound yourself to the house like a prisoner until it’s finished?
7.) Do you spend extra time and money to decorate your house to keep up with the latest decor, even if you don’t have the time or resources to do so?
8.) Do you spend extra cash on clothes to stay in style, when there are other more important things to spend your money on?
If you answered yes to any of those questions, chances are you’re a perfectionist. I’ll admit that these are all me. 😦 Sadly, but too true.
So what is the answer to breaking the cycle of perfectionism? I myself am still on this journey. But I think there are a couple exercises we can all try to help us break this cycle.
First, invite a close, trusted friend over. Wear sweats, don’t pick up the house (it can be clean, but for the love of God, try not to worry about the clutter), and share a slice of chocolate cake (or a goodie on your “no-no list). I’ve come to realize that people who love us the most don’t care about the state of our house, our clothes or our indulgences. The people who love us most want us to be healthy and happy.
Other ways to try and break the cycle is to allow yourself a sweet treat or a day to relax from exercising. One slice of cake won’t make us gain a whole pound, and one day to relax, well it’s just that…relaxing! I think we perfectionists stress out too much over minuscule things. We need to take time to pamper ourselves and stop working so darn hard.
Now, I am not talking about letting ourselves go. Exercise, nutrition, cleaning our house and being happy with our surroundings are all parts that add up to having a healthy life. But there is balance people. BALANCE. I myself am still trying to find it.
So are you a perfectionist? Take this poll, I’m curious…
BTW, I’ll be posting my meal plan tomorrow, I am working at tweaking a few things! Oh don’t forget to enter the Kardea Bar Giveaway!!!
Breakfast: 1 serv. oatmeal with 1 oz nuts, ½ c. berries, ½ c. milk and coffee with Stevia and milk
Snack: 1 serv. fruit, coffee with 1 serv. Silk and Stevia
Lunch: BBQ Chicken Salad (1/2 chicken breast, 1 c. romaine, 1 c. spinach, , 2 tbsp. diced red onions, diced green pepper, 1 tbsp ranch, ½ tbsp bbq sauce) w/ two corn tortillas.
Snack: ½ c. yogurt and 1 serv. fruit
Dinner: Cold Deli Sandwich (2 slices whole wheat bread, 3 oz turkey breast, 1 oz cheddar cheese, 4 slices tomatoes, 1 pickle, 1 slice of onion) with ½ c. green pepper slices and homemade corn chips (2 corn tortillas) and ¼ c. salsa.
–Shawnee, The Ex-Perfectionist
‘Cause life isn’t perfect, but with a little planning and preparation, you can almost come close!